I was once told I am too influential. At the time and due to the circumstance under which this comment was made I was puzzled. I had not given thought to my having any influence with anyone other than my children. Yet, I wondered how I or anyone could be too influential. Too, is that as in far more than needed or wanted? For that commenter, I think that's what he met.
It's been noted that moral values don't just come in by the door of reason only, but also by way of arts and entertainment.
I have wondered about the behaviors of persons who ascribe to certain beliefs. Verbally speaking a good game. Yet, consistently living and producing a picture in complete opposite to that speech. Note the word consistently. Now, I know that we can at times act inconsistent with what we know to be right. Yes, it is possible to know you are wrong, know how to do right and do wrong any way. ask Paul in Romans. But what happened, how do we get there? Reason says no, reason says this has never come to a good end. So, why do we go there?
Influences! Example, I once watch a young man playing a game. tomb raiders, I think it was. The woman wasn't preforming as he expected. forgive me I don't know the game. But, she was swimming and needed to come up for air. He let her drown. She struggled, trying to swim up. but he had the controls. I was out done. You're killing her! I yelled. He very calmly stated. she's not getting the clues so she may as well die. besides its just a game. I said nothing to anyone til now. However, I thought I need to keep an eye on this one. He has no empathy.
I hate killing, I hate to watch killing on TV, I hate to kill the bugs and snakes that invade my vegetable garden. That's why I go out and talk to them every morning. ( you did not need to know that, but I wrote it and I'll leave it) For those who get caught in my garden I sadly kill and only if I can't get them out with out self harm. Anybody see where I'm going here? murder, stealing, sexual perversion, whoredom no longer carry the same stigma and out cry they once had. There is a noticeable lessening of compassion for those with less than ourselves. A suspecting of anyone who doesn't look like us, talk like us, dress like us or is not US. Ever read blogs or comments of persons declaring their fear and negative expectations as ultimate truth of everything and everyone?
Where did these ideas come from? How were they formed? By influences. Influences of media, celebrities, politicians, preachers of doom and gloom, negative people with power.
In my state, Florida USA, if you end up having to be on state assistance for any reason. You suddenly are a criminal, a drug abuser, lazy, don't want to work, scum of the earth ( my interpretation).
So, to protect the good citizens of our state, who still have jobs and can still afford to buy food for their families and pay for their health care, at a( lower rate than cobra) You must submit and pay for a yearly drug test. just like the persons who have been charged and or convicted of a crime.
How did this indignity happen? Persons in places of power and influence said that is why your the state has so much debt. Cause you got to pay for these deadbeats.
I see, and possibly not as much after this goes on face book. I see often christian women and teens dressed in sexually provocative clothing, lips and or butts pointed toward the cameras in their photo files. I get invites to baby showers but not to weddings. I read the angry ravings of mad moms about their no good baby daddies. Baby daddies who rant about the whores and sluts they placed their seed in. The language used many time is profane or evident of a lack of education. Why is this so common? The influence of people with power, media and entertainment.
Yes, I have at times been influenced by the same hype, even though I think of my self as a person of reason. I've fought with myself about doing wrong when I knew to do right, did wrong anyway.
I one day had enough. I have embraced the position of influence. I desire to influence right standing with God, setting first things first, all in right order. I desire to speak louder, be more visible and influence more people to conform to the kingdom standards, Yes, to subscribe to a higher calling with a higher purpose. To Live The legacy.
Saturday, June 11, 2011
Tuesday, May 31, 2011
keeping the promise
I promised to share good things.
As a R. N. for over 30 years and a minister for over 25 I have a vested interest in sharing knowledge.
Not just any knowledge but that which pertains to abundant life.
Knowledge which frees ones mind and body, That Allows one to re lie on God's holy spirit with in him.
It is wise to take care of ones body. Paul when talked about exercise profiting little he was talking to a culture which was enamored over the physical form. They were intellectual exercises. He told them that these exercises profited little in comparison to the exercise or practice of allowing the holy spirit exercise love through a person. To change his mind set from worldly to godliness.
Those who know me well know that I got up to nearly 300 lbs. I had metabolic syndrome.was sick.
I took care of others but not my self. I've changed. I now take care of the part of me which is needed to stay on the planet. I eat healthy, I go to bed at a better time and sleep longer. I take supplements and aspirin. I detox my body and my home. I use natural product and I keep up with consumer reports in order to keep unwanted pollutants out of my house and even my yard. The information featured by VLM is spot on. I suggest that you subscribe and even become a partner of this vital ministry. Coming soon the The May instaullment of pathway 2 prupose.
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Blessings
S. Staci Anderson
As a R. N. for over 30 years and a minister for over 25 I have a vested interest in sharing knowledge.
Not just any knowledge but that which pertains to abundant life.
Knowledge which frees ones mind and body, That Allows one to re lie on God's holy spirit with in him.
It is wise to take care of ones body. Paul when talked about exercise profiting little he was talking to a culture which was enamored over the physical form. They were intellectual exercises. He told them that these exercises profited little in comparison to the exercise or practice of allowing the holy spirit exercise love through a person. To change his mind set from worldly to godliness.
Those who know me well know that I got up to nearly 300 lbs. I had metabolic syndrome.was sick.
I took care of others but not my self. I've changed. I now take care of the part of me which is needed to stay on the planet. I eat healthy, I go to bed at a better time and sleep longer. I take supplements and aspirin. I detox my body and my home. I use natural product and I keep up with consumer reports in order to keep unwanted pollutants out of my house and even my yard. The information featured by VLM is spot on. I suggest that you subscribe and even become a partner of this vital ministry. Coming soon the The May instaullment of pathway 2 prupose.
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Blessings
S. Staci Anderson
Sunday, May 22, 2011
Words of wisdom from Minister Faye of Victorious Ministry
Healthy Boundaries
I've learned not to reinvent the wheel. There are many times when I may have something on my mind; then I will read or hear something that speaks to what I am thinking. This word from my friend is just that. I say often that " because you are my friend is all the reason needed to not abuse me." the message below speaks to setting boundaries. I will post each one over the coming weeks.
However, let me add that I've had friends whom I love but they saw nothing wrong with saying and doing things that were hurtful. They each felt it was alright not to monitor themselves because we were friends. It was funny. When I would repeat my usual saying many time I got a " see we friends so I can tell ya". or You knew I was coming, I'm always late, so why you didn't wait". One by one I became unavailable. My way of getting rid of negatives. If we want to keep our relationships close lets not discard kindness, courteousness and respect under the guise of relative or friendship. The boundary setting goes both ways. Don't be a door mat and police yourself on your behavior toward others.
There are 6 areas where boundaries may be necessary, that I will discuss with you in the coming weeks. Today, I will start with "emotional" boundaries.
To respect and honor yourself you will need to set personal boundaries. Your boundaries help define who you are and how you relate to other people, as well as what you will and will not tolerate in your life. It will probably feel extremely uncomfortable at first, but the more you do it, the easier it becomes. One of the biggest challenges that many people face in learning how to set boundaries is knowing when to say yes and when to say no. We must come to realize that no is a perfectly acceptable answer, even though it doesn't feel as good as saying yes.
Each of us must be sensitive to the warning signs that its time to set a boundary. Don't allow anyone to take advantage of you, treat you with disregard, disrespect or demean you. If that is happening, that is a clear sign that a boundary needs to be set.
You are the person who must decide how to set the boundary. You may choose to address the issue and take it head on. Or you may decide that you need to remove yourself from the toxic environment that is being created. Whatever you decide, you are the one who must define your boundaries and find the solution that allows you to maintain your self-respect.
I've learned not to reinvent the wheel. There are many times when I may have something on my mind; then I will read or hear something that speaks to what I am thinking. This word from my friend is just that. I say often that " because you are my friend is all the reason needed to not abuse me." the message below speaks to setting boundaries. I will post each one over the coming weeks.
However, let me add that I've had friends whom I love but they saw nothing wrong with saying and doing things that were hurtful. They each felt it was alright not to monitor themselves because we were friends. It was funny. When I would repeat my usual saying many time I got a " see we friends so I can tell ya". or You knew I was coming, I'm always late, so why you didn't wait". One by one I became unavailable. My way of getting rid of negatives. If we want to keep our relationships close lets not discard kindness, courteousness and respect under the guise of relative or friendship. The boundary setting goes both ways. Don't be a door mat and police yourself on your behavior toward others.
There are 6 areas where boundaries may be necessary, that I will discuss with you in the coming weeks. Today, I will start with "emotional" boundaries.
To respect and honor yourself you will need to set personal boundaries. Your boundaries help define who you are and how you relate to other people, as well as what you will and will not tolerate in your life. It will probably feel extremely uncomfortable at first, but the more you do it, the easier it becomes. One of the biggest challenges that many people face in learning how to set boundaries is knowing when to say yes and when to say no. We must come to realize that no is a perfectly acceptable answer, even though it doesn't feel as good as saying yes.
Each of us must be sensitive to the warning signs that its time to set a boundary. Don't allow anyone to take advantage of you, treat you with disregard, disrespect or demean you. If that is happening, that is a clear sign that a boundary needs to be set.
You are the person who must decide how to set the boundary. You may choose to address the issue and take it head on. Or you may decide that you need to remove yourself from the toxic environment that is being created. Whatever you decide, you are the one who must define your boundaries and find the solution that allows you to maintain your self-respect.
Friday, May 20, 2011
No body and I don't know
Recently I visited my Son and his family. My daughter received a degree in professional nursing. It was a good visit. My gran daughter told the story "good night moon" from memory. Not bad for a two year old.
This was when I began to think about how stories change over the years. Some are hard to understand with today's experiences. One young mother reminded me of this when she saw the track.
At the end it says "good night nobody". She says this felt wrong for her. I had to smile, because "I don't know and Nobody" lived at my house.
Anytime there was a question of "who dun it" I don't know was to blame, "where is it" I don't know was the one. How did it happen and what happened and why it happened was all blamed on I don't know.
Now, No body bosses everyone around. The answer to who told you, you could go, do or have it was always, No body. it's time for bed, the lights are out and everyone is to close his eyes and be quiet.When a sound is heard from the supposed to be quiet room, the question is asked, who is making all that noise, yeah, No body made it. So good night room, good night phone, good night .............good night nobody, good night noises everywhere.
This was when I began to think about how stories change over the years. Some are hard to understand with today's experiences. One young mother reminded me of this when she saw the track.
At the end it says "good night nobody". She says this felt wrong for her. I had to smile, because "I don't know and Nobody" lived at my house.
Anytime there was a question of "who dun it" I don't know was to blame, "where is it" I don't know was the one. How did it happen and what happened and why it happened was all blamed on I don't know.
Now, No body bosses everyone around. The answer to who told you, you could go, do or have it was always, No body. it's time for bed, the lights are out and everyone is to close his eyes and be quiet.When a sound is heard from the supposed to be quiet room, the question is asked, who is making all that noise, yeah, No body made it. So good night room, good night phone, good night .............good night nobody, good night noises everywhere.
Saturday, May 7, 2011
In honor of my grand mom who I miss to this day.
Grand mamma Said
By S. Staci Anderson
Hello my name is Sandra, I’m eleven years old. I live in a southern town with my grand mom and uncle. I guess we’re a normal family. I go to school and my uncle teaches at a high school. Grand mom is sick right now. But, she says she’ll soon go to live with her father. She says that when she leaves I should be happy because she will never be sick again. Grand moms promised that before she leaves she’s going to teach me how to take care of my self. How to sew, cook, clean, and most of all how to find out something I don’t know. So I’m going to let you in on our secrets.
Grand momma said that when she was a little girl, colored folk were discouraged from learning how to read and write. In some places it was even against the law. She said the white man knew that if we colored people could read we would know when they told us something that wasn’t true.
Grand momma said that when a person reads he can do things and go places in his imagination that he can do for real when he grows up. As for me, I like stories about far away places. France, Italy, Egypt, Africa.
When I was in third grade we got these books called en -cycle- pedias. They had all kinds of information in them. Real true stuff too. I would read about places like Paris France then go there with my friends. I was a tom boy then, so all my friends were boys. We would line up the chairs from the kitchen and dinning rooms, my chair would be upfront, because I was the pilot. I would tell them how high we were flying and where we were going. Once we got there I would drive the tour bus too. We would clime the Eiffel tower; visit the Louvre Museum where we could see famous painting, and sculptures, you know statues, and look across the Seine river. We would eat out side at a small café. It wasn’t really a café at all it was really butter sandwiches with sugar on them and Kool-Aid. All served on my little china tea set.
I would have my dolls model the latest fashions.
Things I made during my sewing lessons with my grand mom. The boys would clap and shout, how beautiful! Of course I could beat up most of them so they had no choice but to do as I said. They had to act happy. For some the return of their marbles depended on it.
Grand momma said that negro people, Now when grand momma talked sometimes we were colored people and sometimes we were Negros. Any who, Colored people were kings and queens back in Africa. We had our own governments, educational systems, doctors and lawyers. Grand momma said we were first tricked into letting our young people go with the white men. We were told that they had found land on the other side of the rivers where no one lived. That the land and the weather was much like ours. They said that they would give us land for our services if we would help them farm it. That we could then build our own houses and communities. Just like they were going to do. When we found out that wasn’t true and that we were not being done right we refused to let our young people go with them. That’s when they began to steal us from our land. Even in our land we had greedy, dishonest, mean and hate filled people who would sell us to the slave traders so that they could keep our lands and girls for themselves. They’re everywhere, you know. Some African people just thought they could make some profit by selling those they had captured in war. Why kill them if you can send them away never to return. It seemed like a good idea.
Grand momma told me stories like this but I never read them in any books. She heard them from her grand-momma and my grand dad whose grand-momma was a slave. One day she showed me in the encyclopedias about a subject called genetics. It was about race species and gender.
Grand momma said that the white man wanted us to always be ignorant. They wanted us to feel like and believe that we were not human. That if we couldn’t read and write it would make us like all the other animals. Then they could tell us what to do and what was right and what was wrong.
I was fascinated by this information. I looked up each word I didn’t understand and I took great joy in knowing something people thought I wasn’t suppose know. So, I wanted to know more.
Grand momma said read learn the definition of words and listen the stories the old folk tell and I would learn to pick out what she called truths.
Grand momma said I’m a pretty little girl and will one day grow into a beautiful woman if I only remember this. “you can never be more beautiful than you are on the inside. Grand momma said that I am to always remember whose child I am, that my fathers rich. I know she doesn’t mean her son, my pops. She said that when people meet me they will judge my whole family on my behavior.
Grand momma said that I am to be an example to my younger sisters and brothers. That I should always have high standards. Grand momma would read to me and of course my uncle was in college back then so he had lots of books when he came home.
Sometimes he would read to me from one of his books. I never understood what he was reading about. I just liked that he read to me. Now I know he was just studying his lesson and tiring to get a read in to me at the same time. I think now, how funny. Cause , I’m older now and I know some things.
Grand momma said keep your room clean, make your bed as soon as you feet hit the floor. Never go to bed with a dirty kitchen. Brush your teeth so they won’t rot and fall out. Always wear clean underwear and be polite even when angry.
Grand momma said emotions don’t think. That it’s best to remove my self from a situation and give it some thought rather than to blurt out what I’m feeling at the time. Cause feelings can fool ya.
But, what if I can’t just walk away? That was always my question. She said that it would take me some time and practice but that I could learn to control my emotions in a matter of seconds and let the good in me take control. That’s a hard lesson to learn.
Grand momma said nothing beats a failure like a try. If you don’t try you automatically fail. If you keep trying you never really fail you become good and successful at finding out what doesn’t work.
Grand momma said faith is not blind. It comes with evidence to back it up. Any thing else is just superstition or a fib in a persons own mind.
Grand momma said that when some one hurts me by saying something mean or untrue they are wrong. I don’t have to like it or pretend they mean me any good. But, I do have to forgive them and keep moving. Because forgiveness is not for the wrong doer. Forgiveness is for the done wrong.
I think my grand momma is smart. She has taught me a lot of things. She’s told me a lot of sayings. Some, she says I will have to keep living to understand. Grand momma can no longer read to me. So I read to her, her favorite is her scripture. I read her red book magazine and her ladies home journal to her every day. She enjoys it when I read. She even lets me read to her stories from my story books she gave me when I turned eight years old. Poems, nursery rhymes and short stories all for me to grow up with. I even read to her a play that my uncle’s drama class is putting on this spring. “The night of the iguana.” I played every part for her. Changing my voice for each character. She just smiled at me.
Did you notice the secret of what my grand momma said?
This is what I learned. Be a continuous learner. Read, imagine believe and take action. Believe that the good In me is bigger than me. Fine out what it is I need to know in order to go, do, be and have what I really want.
Grand mamma said charity ,love, begins at home then spreads abroad. Every generation should live better than the one before it.
Read to get knowledge listen to get understanding, believe to get motivation and behave according to what I believe that I may be wise and live according to the law of love.
This is just some of what grand momma said.
Friday, May 6, 2011
The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not be in lack. He makes me to lie down in green pastures; a place of security, and plenty. He leads me beside the still waters. Where there the calmness of the waters like a mirror reflects peace and his bountiful love for me. He restores my soul; My intellect, my emotions and my will are realigned to conformed to his original intent, that like him I have insight and creative ability. He leads me in the paths of righteousness for his name sake. He directs me to behave in ways that causes others to glorify him. Yea, though I walk through the valley of the Shadow of death, I will fear no evil; There may be darkness, situations,and circumstances that are designed to kill my spirit, take away my peace, my joy and my ambition to live a goodly life however my faith will not fail me. For you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me. we are "achad" you are ever present in my life, I live in agreement with your word, my mind is stayed on you. You know me from all the others in your charge. you've counted me as yours, when I veer away you reach out to bring me back. knowing this I am at ease. you prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies; In plain sight of those nay Sayers, discouragers,and evil wishers you cause me to prosper as they watch helpless to prevent it. You anoint my head with oil. You bless me so abundantly that it runs over and those around me are blessed from that overflow. Surely goodness and Mercy shall follow me all the days of my life and I shall dwell in the house of the Lord forever. I have confidence that where ever I go his goodness and his undeserved favor, and his forgiveness will be a covering for me like the shirt on my back. I will ever, through out all eternity, be a resident family member in my father's home.
A song in the night
A SONG IN THE NIGHT
By S. Staci Anderson
I have been in darkness so deep in the night. Confused, perplexed, yet waiting for Him to rescue me. So many voices flood in to overwhelm me, to cause me to fear. Yet, I hope against hopelessness to hear his voice clearl.Like Job I find I’ve lacked understanding and in my pain good judgment is impaired. How can I sing when joy escapes me. I was taught not to question. It is rude and disrespectful. Yet, in the recesses of my mind I ask where is God my maker? How could he let this be? How could he let something so ugly hurt the child in me. So empty is this darkness, nothing to feel or see. A parentless child, not even a friend. No one to stand with me. I wonder if this sense of disconnect is what caused Jeshua to cry out “my God My god, why hast thou forsaken me?” the night has come and I know you are there. Can’t see you, don’t feel you ,can sense you no where. I am lost, injured and alone.
Find me oh Lord. Rescue me from the night and give light to my heart. And As I wait , give me dear Lord , a voice of praise . A song to sing until hope is raised. for it is you alone and none other who might, in absence of light; give a song in the night.
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